Marriage... way out or way in?

At first, I was a girl with no commitment at all. I mean I really never thought about MARRIAGE. I'm just happy with myself, being single and happy. Enjoy my relationship, fun, and every pleasure of life. 

But then suddenly, I'm married now! Just flow like a river, and this is it! It's been a month now... ^_^
 Actually, from my experience and observation, there's always a big question about marriage. Mostly is how to run this relationship called marriage. Some of them think that marriage will be the way out from problems, from family, and even from their self. But in fact, marriage is the beginning for another problems. How to commit with your partner, is not as easy as we thought before. And above all, we must accept our partner, with their habit, either bad or good.
 I'm a perfectionist person, I don't like to put or see something misplaced. I could be angry just to see the newspaper on my couch, or my bed cover in a mess. I often stressed when I see a bunch of shirt needs to laundry or ironing. It's droves me mad and tired.
But that's the opposite from my hubby. He just enjoy the life and didn't mind with those messy house. Fiuuhh... it's just tired to explain at first. But finally, now, slowly but sure, we could understand each other.
Problems is always come, whether you want it, or not. The important things is communication and understanding. Frankly, I still learn it also....

Tying The Knot and Danau Dariza

Finally... after so many days of confused and dizzy moments, on Sunday 10 Oct 2010, I got married! But until today still feels like old time. Hahaha... Maybe I'm very cool bride, coz I didn't feel nervous at all. Actually the "canonical" was more scary than the wedding day... But lucky it only happens once in a life time! So tired with whole stuffs and procedures. And you must keep smiling for at least.. eerrrr.... 5 hour! No more lah! Still you have to spend a lot of money, just for one day! Hmm... not very found with that reason. 

The most exciting after that is, yeah, honeymoon! Not just because the X factor, but the holiday and the traveling that I love most. We decide, with spontaneously to stay one night on my way back to Jakarta by car. 

First I got Solo. We spent a night in Hotel SOBA (Solo Baru), with unworthy rate : around IDR 450.000/night include breakfast. I mean the facility just so-so, how could they charge that high? Silly!
Second night, we stayed in Bandung. We arrive there @11pm! We going around to find the budget hotel named "HOTEL DAGO". When we found the hotel, unfortunately, the hotel was fully booked! Damn... So we must looking for another place. After around 1 hour searching in H.Juanda, Pasir Kaliki, etc, we caught in a old hotel named "Royal Corner". Frankly, the hotel was very spooky. But yeah what the hell lah, another hotel is fully booked even it's not a weekend. Here we only charged IDR 205.000/night including breakfast.
Next days, we continue the journey to GARUT. Yes, we found some interesting place named DANAU DARIZA in a forum discussion. Then we decided to spent another night there, to try a new atmosphere of mountain. And after 3 hours riding, wallaaaaa.... finally we arrived there! And there's no doubt that it was a great place to stay. The hotel was more like a resort, surrounding by lake and mountain. So peacefully and fresh. I'm in love in this place from the first sight. Hahaha...

The scenery of Danau Dariza

Really, the place was so unique. Here we could set for outbound or gathering also. Lucky for us, because it wasn't a weekend, so not many people stayed there. The rate only IDR 598.000/night on weekdays, including buffet for breakfast.
I feel sorry, because we only stayed one night there. If we know about that before, perhaps we will not arrange to overnight in Solo. But directly go to Garut, and perhaps take a rest in Tegal. It will cost minimal, with the great result. Wkwkwkwk....
Anyway, that was a nice moment though. And on Monday 18 Oct, I already back to my daily routines in office. But... still thinking, when we can go back to that beautiful place again. Must planning earlier for the long vacation. I LOVE TRAVELING.... ^_^

Sharing of Relationship - The Commitment

Ini ada artikel menarik tentang relationship yang bener-bener membuka suatu pemikiran tentang cinta, gw copas dari forum sebelah. Kata-katanya sangat bermakna sekali... 

Suami : Aku tidak menyukai istriku lagi!

Sahabat : Pulang dan cintailah dia!

Suami : Kamu tidak mengerti aku, aku sudah tidak punya perasaan itu lagi!

Sahabat : Pulang dan cintailah dia!

Suami : Tetapi secara emosi aku berarti tidak jujur kalau aku memperlakukan istriku seperti itu, padahal aku tidak merasakannya.

Sahabat : Apakah menurutmu Ibumu mencintaimu?

Suami : Tentu saja! (dengan mantap)

Sahabat : Kira-kira 1 minggu setelah ibumu pulang dari RS, membawamu pulang, dan kamu menangis menjerit-jerit di tengah malam karena popokmu basah, sehingga dia terpaksa bangun walau tubuhnya masih sangat letih, berjalan di lantai yang dingin tanpa alas kaki untuk mengganti popokmu dan menyusuimu. Apakah menurutmu dia sungguh2 menikmati itu semua?

Suami : Tidak (menunduk)

Sahabat : Kalau begitu. Apakah Ibumu secara emosi juga tidak jujur?

Ukuran besarnya cinta bukan karena dia menikmati mengganti popok di tengah mlm, melainkan krn ibumu RELA melakukan itu semua meski dia tidak begitu menyukainya. Pernikahan tdk hanya didasari persaan Cinta, tapi lebih dari itu, yaitu KOMITMEN.

Saat pertama seseorang menikahi istrinya pasti karena cinta, tetapi cinta yang menggebu-gebu akan padam seiring dengan berjalannya waktu.
Lalu.. Apa yang disebut dengan Cinta Sejati ??

Cinta sejati adalah cinta yang tidak memikirkan untung rugi, cinta yang rela berkorban demi seseorang yang dikasihinya. Inilah cinta yang harus diusahakan dalam setiap Pernikahan. Ada org berkata "aku cinta kamu"... berarti : "aku ingin memilikimu; biarlah kamu kumiliki" adalah cinta yang egois karena hanya bergantung pada Perasaan seseorang. Sebab perasaan akan dimakan oleh waktu dan bisa saja perasaan ini muncul pada diri org lain/pasangan orang lain.

Suasana hati mudah berubah, kondisi fisik semakin tua dan tidak menarik, komitmenlah yg menyelamatkan pernikahan. Berani melakukan sebuah "tindakan" baik dalam keadaan suka maupun tidak suka, dan tetap mengasihi pasangan serta mempertahankan Pernikahan yg telah Tuhan anugrahkan.

Hanya Komitmen yang membuat Cinta menggebu-gebu menjadi Cinta yang matang dan dewasa.